Finding the Courage

As a 25 year old, I don’t claim to have all of the answers to life’s biggest questions or even the right advice for life’s smallest problems. But in my 25 years, predominately in the last 5-7, I have gathered a lot of experiences that have set me up to make some big changes in my life over the next few months. 

Change. If you just got a chill down your spine, I don’t blame you. It can be scary and downright debilitating to some people. Obviously it is truly dependent on the nature of the changes taking place and the intent behind them, but still. As humans, regardless of how spontaneous we may try to be, we crave routine and comfort and commonality. Though we accept it and work through it when needed, change is always a difficult thing. 

There are two types of change – ones we control and ones that we can’t control. The latter, of course, is the situation that raises the hairs on our neck because what person doesn’t like to feel like they’re in control of their own life. We crave routine and we crave control. But both of those things take commitment and courage. Commitment to your routine and the courage to take control. I believe that finding and living your routine is the first step in taking control, and only when you have that in place can you successfully manage change.

This has been my struggle for the past few months. Balancing the stresses that come from working for a big corporation with my personal goals. It’s easy to let work take precedence over our lives, which then becomes our routines. Two goals that I’ve had that have taken a back seat until recently have been 

  1. Going back to school to get my MBA
  2. Starting my own business in online retail and design

As a 25 year old, I seemingly have plenty of time to accomplish these things in my life, but it’s that thinking that prevents me from making the change. If not now, when? As I get older, I’ll only get busier and have more responsibilities, whether at my corporate job or with my familial goals. 

Thankfully these two changes more or less go hand in hand. Within the past 2 months, I’ve committed to making the change in my life to start working towards these goals. As I’ve mentioned, I’m beginning classes toward my MBA in less than a month. I’ve also registered my business earlier this week and have begun building my brand on social media. There’s plenty more work to be done to get my business off the ground, but the thing about that is that it doesn’t feel like work.

So how did I get here? What gave me the courage to make the change from my current routine? There’s a few things that led me here. 

  1. If you don’t like it, change it. Over the past few years working for a big company, I’ve started to realize even more so what my professional goals are. I want to run my own business and be responsible for my own success. I want to have complete control over my success (or failure) and feel like I’ve built something to be proud of that I can attach my name to, as opposed to being a number in sea of employees. Of course, I won’t be leaving the corporate world until my business is established, but I’m now taking steps in the right direction. Life’s too short to not be working towards your goals.
  2. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. My brother opened his own business a few years ago. My boyfriend started his own business within the past year. I’ve seen the hard work and dedication and stress that comes with being your own boss, but I also have seen the benefits and pride each of them got when my brother was able to expand his services, and my boyfriend made his first of many online sales. It’s those bits of success along the journey that make it all worthwhile. But really the inspiration isn’t just about them as entrepreneurs but as people who weren’t afraid to take the risk and invest in their dreams and themselves.
  3. You will never do anything in this life without courage. You need to believe in yourself and your dreams. When you truly find the courage to make the changes to follow those dreams, then the fun part (and hard work) begins. The biggest risks often reap the biggest rewards, so you mustn’t be afraid. You mustn’t be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling. Think it, dream it, do it. 

Finding the courage to quit a job that you may not like, or give up your time to go back to school, or get yourself out of any situation that isn’t making you happy can be difficult. But I’m confident it’s the best change that you will ever make in your life. 

What changes do you need to make to get you on the right track in your pursuit of happiness?

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